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Episode 014: Dr. Kim Harms - personal adversity, resilience, love & legacy

In this deeply moving interview, Dr. Kim Harms shares her journey of overcoming personal adversity and dedicating her life to helping others through grief and healing. Born with only seven fingers and facing a turbulent childhood, Dr. Kim recounts how she navigated the challenges of her mother’s suicide, her own physical limitations, and the devastating loss of her son to suicide at 19. Despite these hardships, Dr. Kim’s resilience shines through as she speaks about her career in dentistry, her transition to grief counseling, and her mission to help others build meaningful legacies. She discusses the importance of love, resilience, and legacy, offering listeners insight into coping with grief and living fully, even in the face of unimaginable loss.

This episode is a profound reflection on love, loss, and resilience, offering listeners both comfort and practical tools for navigating their own grief and leaving a lasting legacy.

To learn more about Dr. Kim and her work:
Website:  drkimberlyharms.com

Book: Are You Ready? How to Build a Legacy to Die For

Episode highlights:

• Dr. Kim’s early life, being born with seven fingers and overcoming physical challenges.
• The emotional trauma of her mother's suicide and the impact on her life.
• Her motivation for pursuing dentistry, inspired by a mix of personal ambition and love.
• The tragic loss of her son to suicide and the devastating aftermath on her family.
• Dr. Kim’s fight to climb out of the "grief pit" to support her remaining family and live a full life.
• Her career shift from dentistry to grief counseling after nerve damage ended her dental practice.
• The power of attachment theory and how early love can provide resilience for a lifetime.
• Practical advice on building legacies and preparing for end-of-life matters, including leaving a meaningful legacy for children and grandchildren.
• Her latest book, "Are You Ready? How to Build a Legacy to Die For", which combines practical advice and emotional insight into legacy building and grief recovery.
• Personal reflections on the importance of laughter, self-acceptance, and maintaining healthy relationships throughout life.

As always, visit lilylist.com for more information on the podcast and platform. You can also contact us from the website, if you have questions or ideas for people or topics you’d like to hear or see on the platform.

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Outro music: Denouement by Sift - https://siftmusic.com

Episode 013: Angy Brinson - abuse, ghosts & the paranormal, empathy & burnout

Welcome to episode 13 of the LilyList podcast, where our goal is to be a handbook for the living. In this candid conversation, Angy Brinson, a social worker and former paranormal investigator, opens up about her journey through life’s challenges and her dedication to helping others. From her difficult childhood in rural North Carolina to founding a paranormal investigation team and eventually becoming a social worker, Angy’s story is one of resilience, empathy, and a desire to make a difference. She discusses the impact of growing up with an abusive parent, her struggles managing mental well-being, and how her early experiences shaped her career path. Angy also touches on the intersections of her ghost hunting past and her current work in social services, offering unique insights into empathy, death, and the human experience.

Episode Highlights:

• Angy’s challenging childhood with an abusive father and the motivation it gave her to succeed.
• Founding the Paranormal Investigators of North Carolina (PINC) at 17, and how paranormal investigation shaped her future career.
• The transition from paranormal investigations to social work, drawing parallels between the two.
• Insights into her experience working in hospice care and dealing with end-of-life situations.
• The struggles of managing personal mental health while working in a demanding and emotionally charged profession.
• Angy’s reflections on the importance of empathy and the challenges of helping others while struggling to care for herself.
• Candid discussions about legacy, burnout, and the difficulty of asking for help.
• The emotional toll of social work and the balance between personal well-being and professional responsibilities.

As always, visit lilylist.com for more information on the podcast and platform. You can also contact us from the website, if you have questions or ideas for people or topics you’d like to hear or see on the platform.

If you would like to support LilyList:
Buy Lily a coffee
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Outro music: Denouement by Sift - https://siftmusic.com

Episode 012: Chris Lockler - self-discovery, addiction, and making amends

In episode 12 we chat with Chris Lockler who shares his inspiring journey of self-discovery, overcoming addiction, and making amends. We discuss his struggles with substance abuse, finding purpose in volunteering and helping others via his work with Bearded Villains, Team Rubicon, and the Red Cross Disaster Action Team. He touches on his experience of going through the process of finding hope, learning from his mistakes as a leader, and the importance for people to take immediate action when it comes to community-driven recovery efforts.

To learn more about Chris and the organizations he supports:

• https://www.instagram.com/thebuddamilk/ (@thebuddamilk)
• https://www.beardedvillains.com/
• https://www.redcross.org/volunteer/disaster-action-team.html
• https://teamrubiconusa.org/

As always, visit lilylist.com for more information on the podcast and platform. You can also contact us from the website, if you have questions or ideas for people or topics you’d like to hear or see on the platform.

Outro music: Denouement by Sift - https://siftmusic.com

Episode 011: Stacey Carter - horses, murder, resilience, and impact

In Episode 11, we chat with Stacey Carter, a prominent advocate and community leader from Salisbury, North Carolina. She emerged as a powerful voice in the aftermath of tragedy – known for her appearances in documentaries about the infamous Pazuzu Algarad killings. Stacey courageously shared her personal experience of losing her son’s father to Algarad's heinous crimes. Her journey through grief and resilience has inspired many and led her to launch two impactful organizations: Happy Roots and Heart Centered Horsemanship.

Happy Roots is dedicated to providing nature-based wellness programs to improve the mental and emotional health of communities through garden-based education and outdoor experiences.. Heart Centered Horsemanship focuses on equine-assisted therapy, offering individuals the chance to develop emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and healing through interactions with horses.

In our chat, Stacey shares her experiences, her advocacy work, and an incredibly challenging situation led her to focus on having positive impact on the lives of others.

To learn more about Stacey and Heart Centered Horsemanship, visit https://heartcenteredhorsemanship.com/

Thank you for listening, and as always, you can visit https://LilyList.com for more information about our work.

Outro music: Denouement by Sift - https://siftmusic.com

Episode 010: Tom Troyer - religion, music, and who inherits what

Welcome to episode 10 of the LilyList podcast, where our goal is to be a handbook for the living. We chat with North Carolina artist Tom Troyer about his upbringing in the Wesleyann church, the intersection of education and religion, how he transitioned to music full-time, and who he wants to leave his gear to when he dies. His latest album - The Silent Years by Farewll Friend - is now available and I can highly recommend it. You should see a link in the description of wherever you are presently listening to this. 

For more information on Tom and Farewell Friend:
https://www.farewellfriendband.com/

Thank you for listening, and as always, you can visit https://LilyList.com for more information about our work.

Outro music: Denouement by Sift - https://siftmusic.com

Episode 009: Eddie Pepitone - childhood, career, and legacy

In episode 9 we catch up with our friend Eddie Pepitone. We touch on Eddie’s background, experiences in pursuing a creative career in America's capitalist system, and the importance of personal legacy and preparing for legal aspects of life. We also chat about writers that inspire us, the impact of Eastern philosophy, and even Eddie's health and fitness routine.

For more information on Eddie:
https://www.eddiepepitone.com/

Thank you for listening, and as always, you can visit https://LilyList.com for more information about our work.

Outro music: Denouement by Sift - https://siftmusic.com

Episode 008: Mishka Shubaly - ephemeral reality, legacy in art, marriage

In episode 8, Mishka and Curt discussed the challenges of living in extreme weather conditions, the ephemerality of creative work, and the importance of legacy in art. They also shared their personal experiences and influences that shaped their artistic expression, including the impact of music and their tumultuous journeys from troubled childhoods to "successful" careers. Lastly, they reflected on their personal relationships, the concept of marriage, and the impact of the Covid-19 pandemic, with plans (hopes?) to stay in touch and reconnect in the future.

For more information on Mishka:
@mishkashubaly

Thank you for listening, and as always, you can visit https://LilyList.com for more information about our work.

Outro music: Denouement by Sift - https://siftmusic.com

Episode 007: Beth Talbert - adoption, early-onset dementia, and taking back life

In episode 7 we present a very interesting conversation with Beth Talbert. An amazing human being with an amazing story, who isn’t done yet. We discuss her life from adoption, growing up on islands and moving to New Hampshire, landing in North Carolina, and navigating life while caring for a husband with early-onset Alzheimer’s. We also touch on her present life and what she is looking forward to. This is one of the best conversations that we’ve had on Lily List and I thank Beth, sincerely, for sharing her time and story with us.

Thank you for listening, and as always, you can visit https://LilyList.com for more information about our work.

Outro music: Denouement by Sift - https://siftmusic.com